I had never really connected the pain that James suffered filming Seeing Red with his belief that Spike wasn't good enough for Buffy.

Funny how I knew those 2 facts yet never added the two together before *g* ... Every season was set to cope with varying parts of life we all go through, at whatever age.

James should remember that Spike actually went to get his soul when he "hurt the girl" ... what more can a girl want than someone who goes beyond their nature?